Updates to the questionnaire also cover your personal relationship style, but in ways that are probably more accurate than a sliding scale of self-rated emotional stability. One of our favorite tactics covered how you think family and friends would describe you: “Deals with problems in an objective and thoughtful manner” or “Always participates in everything” are two options that can really tell you a lot about someone’s outlook on life.
The combination of the weighty questionnaire and eharmony’s reputation of forming serious relationships means that matches are going to expect you to be vulnerable with someone you’ve never met IRL and maybe even be open to putting a title on the relationship after a few meet-ups. (The site monitors each user’s activity very closely, so the chances of getting nasty opening lines about your favorite position in bed are minimal.) If that sounds gross to you, don’t force it. You won’t have fun, and neither will your matches who are looking for something serious.
The biggest shock? eharmony doesn’t give off overbearing Christian vibes anymore. As recently as two or three years ago, questions about church and God were sprinkled in, even for respondents who marked that they aren’t religious. The site has since updated the questionnaire and barely touches on the topic. If the picture of eharmony painted in your head is one from a 2009 commercial, you may want to give the site a revisit.